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<tr align="center" valign="top" bgcolor="#FFFFF"><td align="left" colspan="5" >never tell him that. I feel you coz i have a few similar secrets i hate but i will  never ever tell them to anyone. It is better for them. </td>
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<tr align="center" valign="top" bgcolor="#FFFFF"><td align="left" colspan="5" >As a man who is in a relationship with a woman in a similar situation to you, I can offer you this consolation: there is  no divide great enough to separate love.  If you love him, share your whole self with him.  If he  loves you in return he will share your pain and ease your  burden.  My wife and I have gone through similar issues, and she may  well die early due to some of her choices in life, but that  won't diminish any part of our relationship.  I say that  with confidence because we are in love.  Now I won't lie to you and say everything is easy now, but  everything we have been through together has made us a  closer couple.  Nothing can separate us now.  I will pray for you and your partner.  God bless.</td>
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<tr align="center" valign="top" bgcolor="#FFFFF"><td align="left" colspan="5" >I know that secrets can destroy a marriage, my wife didn't tell me about her past and her issues from being abused as a child but I knew something was wrong the first time we made love she stared at the ceiling and tears streamed down her face. She was off in another place. It destroyed our intimacy, after five years we were about to be separated because of the lack of intimacy had driven us so far apart, but then she told me everything. We worked through it and things are different now. you have to tell him everything and let him have a chance to make a decision. I would't have walked away if she would have told me all of her story up front and our marriage would have been much more pleasant the first five years. God bless and have faith that everything is part of God's plan, if he walks away, which I don't believe he will, then its for a good reason. </td>
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<tr align="center" valign="top" bgcolor="#FFFFF"><td align="left" colspan="5" >Maybe  ALANON can help. They advocate a twelve step program, most likely  your local phone book has their number, or library or internet.... silly me.   Take it easy on yourself, good luck. Jane E </td>
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<tr align="center" valign="top" bgcolor="#FFFFF"><td align="left" colspan="5" >Hey, good job on dealing with your past issues! You seem to be getting the  help you need and no one can take that away from you. Sometimes, people  can be so focused on their own faults and past, that their sig other can seem  perfect in comparison. But chances are he has some parts of his past he  doesn't want you to know about as well. The thing you have to ask yourself is,  do you really trust him, and is he really the one? I think you have to really love  yourself before you can love anyone else. If you do trust him enough to tell  him, I say don't agree to marry him until you do. You wouldn't want to live  with secrets like that, especially the financial debt, during a marriage. In fact,  the thing he might be worried about the MOST is credit card debt. If you want,  take more time to think about it, and maybe ask your counselor/therapist  about good ways to breach the subject. Good Luck!</td>
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<tr align="center" valign="top" bgcolor="#FFFFF"><td align="left" colspan="5" >This is another more further step in ur relationship!! U have to tell him, let  him know who u really r it will make u guys closer!!! If he truly loves u for  the person that u are your past will not push him back and if it does its  better to know befor you tie the not!! Its the best way to go, honestly he  has the right to know since hes marrying for better or for worse!!! Sooner  or later he will find out n the later it is the Bigger the issue!!! Hoped this helps u</td>
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<tr align="center" valign="top" bgcolor="#FFFFF"><td align="left" colspan="5" >dont tell him let what happened in the past stay in the past</td>
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